Are you tired of investing your time and energy to the wrong men,only for you to end up frustrated,hurt and empty-handed again and again!? .This can be so exhausting,draining and painful!. It's a New Year Ladies,now you have to grab the Bull by the horn and take what is rightfully yours!..
You've worked hard to finally find peace and a sense of happiness in your life and there is no way you're going to let someone come into your life and mess it all up for you in this New Year and yet you don't want to give up on LOVE or LAV as i call it.
You want to meet the 'MR RIGHT' ,someone who makes you feel challenged,loved,inspired,focus and adored.but you are so scared to give love a TRIAL cause of your past experience..
Well here are the few things you can do to make sure it's safe to open your heart when dating:
1.DEFEND AND ADVOCATE FOR YOURSELVES: If something is bothering you,tell him,if he dismisses your feelings or gets defensive,that's a red flag.Only date someone who's able to assess his own behavior and make changes when necessary.Date a man who owns up to his mistakes and who values your feelings(this is very important and make sure you reciprocate).
2.DELAY THE SEX: Ladies this is very important and it brings honor to you.Sex is awesome!,and am all for it.But when you're serious about finding the ''right one'' ,it's idea to wait.Waiting until you're in the relationship gives the two of you time to create emotional intimacy first,which is a smart strategy to becoming serious and yielding to something great.If the man you're dating is genuinely interested in you,he'll wait until you're ready ;by then,you would have groomed your mind, body and soul and ready when you are ready eventually.if he is more concerned about sex and not anything that has to do with you,then he doesn't respect that boundary and you don't need to waste you time with guys like that!.
3. MAKE SURE HE'S INTO YOU: If a man is into you,he'll make you a priority.He'll ask to spend time with you consistently so you both can know each other well and he will tell you what he likes about you.You won't have to wonder how he feels or wait anxiously for his call..Bottom line-if he's into you,you will know it,and if he's not My dear,no time to waste walk away!.
4. PAY ATTENTION TO HIS WORDS AND NOT HIS ACTIONS: His actions show that he cares about you by showering you with gift and the likes,more so than his words.Does he make time for you and stay connected (chats,calls and know what's up)when he is not with you?.Does he make promises and then follow through?A boyfriend who's thoughtful,caring,generous,consistent and kind will someday be a Husband who possess the same attributes while he was playing the boyfriend role in one's life.So ladies pay attention to his words than action.
5. DO NOT ACCEPT THE CRAP HE DOES: Think about the behaviors that hurt you in you past relationships,and the things you never liked,write them out ..was your ex passive-aggresive,negative,critical,non-communicative or cold?..if you notice these same traits in your current beau,ask him to stop.if he can't or won't,then i advise you move on ,because trying to please another person just to displease yourself won't pay you at all,rather it would drain you completely..let go of it and don't be blindly with the things you are getting from the relationship at the moment and you thinking he would change later in the future..My dear,it gets worse by the day.you deserve to be treated beautifully so move on.
6. DO NOT GO FOR GUYS WITH LOW SELF ESTEEM: If he doesn't love and value himself,he probably can't love and value you in a healthy way,because you can't give what you don't have..so always watch out for someone with high esteem cause this is so important.
7.DO NOT CHASE AND BEG MEN TO LOVE YOU: The right people who belong in your life will come find you and stay with you.cause that moment you start begging for love,for calls ,for checking on you,you will continue begging to maintain that relationship of yours.Work hard and be you,get busy connect with the right source and people,love life,party hard,help the needy,read a book to improve yourself and have a great personality!
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